If you’ve been following my blog, then you already know how important thinking is for me. Thinking has, for me, been a powerful tool in my healing. I consider both negative and positive thoughts equally important, I’ve already written about it in previous posts. For me both negative and positive thoughts are equally important. It is because they are a signal of something else going on in our subconscious.
What I’ve learned from myself is that my negative thoughts come from something unresolved going on in my subconscious. In my case, repressed traumas. I know because it wasn’t until I confronted all those negative thoughts and observed where they came from that I was able to resolve my traumatic experiences. If I had not listened to those thoughts and take them seriously (not as true, but as real) I would still be in denial and repeating old survival patterns. The way I see it, when we try to push away the negative thoughts and replace them with positive thoughts, we are not fully paying attention to ourselves. We avoid solving the core of our traumatic experiences.
I’ll try to explain it in a less abstract way. Think of a child who bullies other children and is very problematic at school. Is the solution to expel that child from school and be replaced by another no problematic child the solution? Will that make the problem disappear? Maybe from that school, but the core problem stays. But what happens if we pay attention to that child and try to find the reasons behind that behaviour? I think that it’s better to pay attention to the reasons behind the negative attitude of that child, that’s the best solution for the whole. So imagine your brain being the school and your thoughts the children. Ain’t it better to pay attention to both the positive and negative thoughts equally? Ain’t it the best for the whole?
Is it OK to reject a child because of negative behaviour? Would you do that? I wouldn’t, so that’s why I pay attention to my negative thoughts. Not because I enjoy having them and want to live with the pain they inflict me, but because I want those thoughts to become something new and beautiful. In my case it has been, among other things, to get rid of my chronic pain.
Thoughts are extremely important for me, and understanding the reasons behind every negative thought has been extremely helpful in my healing. My thoughts are like children at school, learning, interacting with each other and growing up together. I want a healthy school 🙂